It's okay to NOT be okay!

These are challenging times.  

And as much as everyone is dealing with uncertainty brought about by the spread of COVID-19, for those dealing with anxiety and depression it might seem that this is another heavy brick placed on top of all the bricks they are already juggling on a daily basis.

While it  is important to be aware of how the present crises impacts mental health, it is equally important to be aware of a few things that would help minimize the trauma of this present reality.  May I suggest the following things to keep in mind as we deal with this?

1. Keep in mind that It is okay to not be okay.  It is important to remain hopeful in dire times, but we should be aware of undue pressure to “think positively” and believe that everything will be okay.  There is a need to recognize that these are uncertain times.  Let us give ourselves permission to be upset by the uncertainty and acknowledge the anxiety that the uncertainty brings. Let us be mindful of how our bodies react to the uncertainty that we feel in a mindful way that allows us to feel our feelings and be patient and kind to ourselves, for sometimes acknowledging that we are NOT okay and that it is okay to NOT be okay is the beginning of mental wholeness. 

2.  Recognize that this is the time to depend on each other.  Anxiety and depression often makes us isolate and shut down. The call for social distancing as a preventative measure against contacting the virus makes isolating much easier.  But this is the time that we need each other the most.  The call then is to take advantage of technology and use it effectively to connect with each other on a daily basis. Instead of simply texting, make the time to Skype or FaceTime.  Join a virtual meet - up group or start one.  Others are feeling as disconnected as you are, so go ahead, make the first step and intentionally add someone else to your social circle.

3.  Take advantage of virtual health care services. Staying home to stay safe should not keep you from investing in your mental health.  Many therapists are using this opportunity to provide virtual therapy sessions to their clients.  We realize that people need someone they can trust to help them process their feelings of uncertainty and helplessness.  Therapists are trained to walk alongside clients in traumatic moments like this.  So check out online directories like https://www.onlinecounselling.com and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists to find a therapist that offers virtual therapy in your area. Rememeber, these are difficult days. You do not have to muddle it through on your own. Investing in your mental health is an investment in you!

Stay safe!

Uduak Afangideh